I disagree — I identify as bisexual but I don’t believe bisexuality excludes everything but traditional definitions of male and female. I’ve had history with trans men and trans women, as well as a non-binary person. Like I said, a lot of people who identify as bi do so because they’re attracted to their own and other genders. Those are the two parts of the “bi.” The term bisexual is older than the term pansexual, and a lot of older people (and younger people, too!) choose to identify as bi for various reasons.
Honestly, I meet the criteria for both terms, but I choose to identify as bi. One of the big reasons is that I find gender to be a big influence in my attraction — I find different things physically attractive about different genders, for different reasons!
It’s a big semantic argument, and one that I find frustrating. People in the LGBTQIA+ community shouldn’t be fighting — we should support each other and celebrate our differences!
I first of all want to thank you for responding to me. I read through the handout on the semantic differences between (too late, as it turns out), and I’m pleasantly surprised to learn that I agree with you. I feel like arguments in the “I’m more supportive than you are” vein are inherently toxic, and I thank you for identifying one of mine. I don’t make that mistake often and I’m a bit embarrassed about it.
Secondly, how you choose to identify is your business, and your business alone. I guess I’ve got a hair trigger when it comes to people assuming gender is binary. I’m a less powerful advocate because of that weakness. Thank you for reminding me.
I’ll have to think about how these differences change my opinion on how I identify (team ‘bi’ or team ‘pan’). Thanks again for giving me a chance to think. I wish (as always when I err this way) that I had done so sooner.
I am absolutely delighted to have had this discussion with you! You seem like an awesome and open person, and I appreciate you hearing me out and taking what I said to heart. All in all, I think this is one of the best tumblr interactions I’ve ever had on this subject. Thank you so much! My inbox is always open if you ever want to discuss things further. :)
Well, that was unexpectedly civil. Listen and learn.